It’s Monday!!! Yay :-D
This week I just want to go back and hit a point. Single for Life sounds like a prison sentence but it is really a distinct journey that none can take except there is a gift within them to do so.
11 But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given. 12 For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother’s womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven’s sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it. Matt 19:11-12
My point is simple, singleness for life is a gift just like being married is a gift. Christians often forget this fact and have a tendency to make singles feel incomplete, unworthy, unwelcome and to some extents suspect. Between not so subtle “hints”; “accidental” and intentional setups; jealous married folks that grab their mates; odd bible quotes and questioning looks, a single can feel that the gift they enjoy is a shroud of shame. (Which personally makes me want to scream in the middle of conversations, “I’m not interested in your man! I’m waiting for my own!” or “I’m waiting on Jesus! Are you Jesus?!” but honestly that would not be attractive. So I’m not going to have that moment. Breath….Breath….. Breath….lol.)
For the church to be all we are called to be. We must embrace all the gifts that are present within the body. We cannot exalt marriage and demean singleness nor deify singleness and belittle marriage. Each gift contributes to the whole. (Let’s not forget that the ratios are unequal between men and women; therefore somebody is coming up short. And whoever that is needs to be ok with that. “He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.”) We must honor everyone’s journey and allow it to bless the body as a whole.
For singles who are called to singleness for life, that honor must begin with you. No one can honor your gift if you hide it or doubt it. Own your singleness! There is great power and character in knowing that a relationship is not a goal. It is admirable and encouraging to watch someone pursue Christ and Him alone. So know your position and play it (i.e. stop flirting with the willing to do workers if you ain’t trying to work with them. Be courageous.). Be that! All of it!
Note From Good: If you are not sure if you have the permanent gift of singleness, commit this to prayer and counsel (Counsel of wise elders, Christian counselors, (true) ministers or pastors). One can also take a brief walk through books such as Forever and Always by Dr. and Mrs. Tracy or Boundaries in Marriage by Cloud and Townsend to understand the demands of marriage and gauge whether or not you are even willing to give what it takes. Remember singleness is a ministry to God but marriage is a ministry to God by ministering to His child in love. Do some study and know the fullness of both lifestyles. God will make it clear. I’m done.
Una sangre, Una sola familia! Todos Gentes! Besos! (One blood, One Family! All People! Kisses!)
Life, Love and Learning to you,